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April
10, 2006 Transcript
"Would
she Hate Me for Giving Her Up?"
Sam:
There are moments when I want to reach out and tell Alexis the truth,
but I just -- I don't know.
Father
Coates: Ok. So in those moments, what holds you back?
Sam:
She thinks that her daughter died, and I -- I think that it would
probably be best if everyone --
Father
Coates: Uh-uh, no, no. This isn't about everyone. This is about
you, Sam. If you want a chance to get to know your mother, then
you should tell Alexis the truth. It might be the best for both
of you.
Sam:
Maybe you're right. Maybe I should tell her the truth.
Alexis:
Sorry for the intrusion. I didn't know that you were here.
Father
Coates: Not at all.
Sam:
Father Coates was just helping me come to a very important decision.
Alexis:
Good. Good, I'm glad that you have someone to confide in, and I
-- I hope whatever decision that you come to brings you much peace
of mind.
Father
Coates: Well, if you'll excuse me, I have some work to do back at
the church. Uh -- Sam, call me anytime.
Sam:
I will, thank you.
Father
Coates: Alexis, it was nice seeing you again.
Alexis:
Nice seeing you. I'm sorry to interrupt.
Father
Coates: No, not at all.
Alexis:
I -- uh -- I came by to give these to your baby. I think about her
a lot, and our conversation last night made it resonate even more.
Sam:
That's very thoughtful. The flowers are beautiful. I am -- I'm really
glad we got stuck together -- it gave us a chance to talk.
Alexis:
I've been thinking about it a lot. I'm glad that you're talking
to Father Coates.
Sam:
Really?
Alexis:
Really. I like him a lot and I think he has very good intentions.
He does, however, have a parish to run, and Sonny is his most generous
parishioner, so I -- I always hope that it doesn't cloud his judgment.
Sam:
What are you talking about?
Alexis:
I just hope that he's not pushing you unconsciously toward Jason,
because I believe that you have better options. I was at the hospital.
I grabbed these -- some information on counselors and therapists,
just some literature if you -- if you want to read it.
Sam:
Are you serious?
Alexis:
I just want you to know that there's help if you want it.
Sam:
I've said this before. Just please try and hear me this time. Jason
does not abuse me.
Alexis:
I'm not saying that he physically abuses you, Sam. I certainly hope
not.
Sam:
All Jason does is protect me. Don't you understand that?
Alexis:
He isolates you. He keeps you dependent on him. I think it's safe
to say that you're not allowed to ask him certain questions about
himself or anything about his work, and he can ask questions about
you? You're living your life at his convenience, and that is an
unequitable relationship which, by its very nature, is abusive.
Sam:
Why are you so quick to judge something that you do not understand?
Alexis:
Is it a fair analysis?
Sam:
Alexis, I have been in plenty of abusive relationships before. I
have been lied to, I have been cheated on, I have been smacked around.
Jason does not do that. He is the exact opposite. Jason is kind
and -- and respectful. He's supportive of everything that I do.
Alexis:
You've paid a big price for that so-called support.
Sam:
Jason is the best thing that's ever happened to me, and if you want
to help me, stay out of my life, please.
Ric:
I was driving by when I saw your car.
Alexis:
Hmm. I couldn't visit my own daughter's grave, so I thought I'd
visit Sams.
Ric:
Hmm. Did it help?
Alexis:
No. Not one bit. I can't say I don't keep trying. I can't stop thinking
about her. I can't stop hearing the questions. I can't stop wondering,
"What was she like? Would she be married now? Would she have
kids?"
Ric:
Mm-hmm.
Alexis:
"Would she have a career? Would she --"
Ric:
Well, you can't live in what ifs, Alexis.
Alexis:
I know that, but I can't stop because the -- the worst question
that keeps popping up over and over again is, "Would
she hate me for giving her up?" I mean, do adopted
kids hate it or -- or do they accept it, and are they grateful?
Ric:
I don't know. I guess it depends on the child, and the reason why
the child was given up. But there's no way for you to know what
your daughter might've done or felt.
Alexis:
Maybe I can find someone who will help answer in her place.
Carly:
What do you want?
Alexis:
Surprisingly, I'm here on a legal matter. I -- I would like your
opinion on something.
Carly:
All right, well, that's weird, but go on.
Alexis:
I have a client who gave up her child for adoption. The records
are sealed, but she's approached me about trying to find that child.
Carly:
Not really sure how I can help you on that.
Alexis:
Well, it's -- it's not with the research -- we have the resources
for that. I am personally concerned about the emotional ramifications
of this child, who is now a woman. I'm concerned that it will disrupt
her life and wanting to know if you have any thoughts about how
she might feel about her mother giving her up for adoption.
Carly:
You want my opinion on that?
Alexis:
I know that this same thing has happened to you --
Carly:
You don't care about me, so let's just cut to the chase. You want
to know how it feels to find out your mother dumped you.
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